Hi babes it’s me, your curly haired curl friend.
! As part 2 of our Curly Hair Series, I wanted to share the wonderful Curly Hair Wisdom that was passed to me when I posted the Question “What are your favorite Curly Hair tips, tricks, oils, remedies, theories, and routines?”
Today, I am thanking all who contributed from the bottom of my heart as I share your answers anonymously so that we can all hopefully learn a few new Curly Hair tricks worth trying.
To begin with, my friend Josie shared this quote, which I love.
When A Curly gal embraces her curls, she has fully embraced herself.
So for all my curly haired sisters, this post is for you, to help inspire you on your hair journey.
Curly Hair Wisdom from your Curl Friends
“I think all curly heads learn that shampoo is a rarity and conditioner is a daily, be it coconut oil, argan oil, castor oil, or a leave-in conditioning cream. I have them all in rotation and decide in the moment what is needed. Brushes feel amazing on my scalp, but make my curls wild ) Well, wilder) for a few days, so combing with fingers or something as lovely as a wooden comb are essential.”
“Always go alcohol-free on all that touches your curls, and moisturize with a hair mask at least every other week.
I’ve taken to Fractionated coconut oil along with shea butter after a wash with Suave shampoo and some Nubian conditioner.”
“Argan oil over naturally dried hair!
“My trick for smooth curls on my daughters hair is using Lush’s Hair Honey and Plant Makeup’s Herbal Mist.”
“Love my curly locks! I don’t brush my curls, except when my hair is wet. Also, I like to condition with coconut oil masque twice a week. I use Argan oil to smooth it out, and a coconut based gel to tame it.”
“When it comes down to the brass tax of 33 years of curls, (and a hairstylist mother trying every last trick and product in the book ) twist those towel-blotted locks with coconut oil while fresh out of the shower, pick it out during a heavy conditioning and they will last a week!”
“I bring out my curls by drying them with a cotton t-shirt instead of a towel.”
“I have a lot of dark brown curls. I have been searching for organic, natural hair care for years. I wash my hair once a week.. I brush my scalp before I wash my hair with Shea Moisture shampoo, and use a comb when I condition it. I use Yarok Feed your Curls and Yarok Feed Your Ends as styling products, and scrunch it while it dries.”
“No shampoo except once or twice a month! Condition the whole time i’m in the shower, then comb with a wide toothed comb. Add yummy moisture product. Curl with my fingers, and keep scrunching!”
“No washing, lot’s of sweat and brushing. I use 2 kinds of brushes, wooden to get the tangles out, then synthetic bristle to smooth. Then a lot of times I smooth argan oil over the baby hairs and ends, for a little bit of a wetted down wavy look. But unlike most, I love a humid, misty rainy day for my hair so if it’s doing that outside, that is all I need!”
“Hairstory New Wash once a week, Hairstory Hair Balm every time I rinse. Scrunch it in wet, shake it out as it dries!”
“Not only do I have curls, but I have lots and lots of gray curls! Coconut oil is my favorite, brushed though the root using my Free Your Hair Brush and putting it in braids before going to bed ( my mother always said ‘Never brush curly hair…….’ Oh how wrong she was! ) This routine helps to soften the kinks and keep the frizz down.”
“Conditioner. I can do without shampoo. I would still love to not rely on commercial conditoner. One product I love is homemade hair gel. 1/4 cup flax seeds, 2 cups water, boil until the consistancy of egg whites, strain and add your favorite essential oil. I scrunch this into my hair in the shower when it is sopping wet. Love!”
“I’ve been rinsing my hair with one cup of strong chamomile tea mixed with one drop chamomile essential oil, then sitting in the sun.”
“A drop or two of rosemary essential oil is the absolute best for adding shine to your hair. Better than any shine drops/serum/spray I have ever used!”
“Someone told me to mix up salt in warm water and spray it in my hair to add a little extra curl.”
“I use a little Dr. Bronner’s on my scalp every few days. Rinse with rosemary and chamomile for natural highlights. Then scrunch in some conditioner and use Deva Curl styling cream. I make sure my hair is super wet and air dry it slowly for the best curl.”
“Condition, condition, condition! I only use a soft t-shirt to scrunch my hair dry after a shower and really integrate in when my hair is still very wet. Lately I’ve been sectioning my hair before twisting to help define my curl more. It takes a little while but I love having time for self care. I only brush my hair before wash day.”
“I have really thick curly to kinky hair and I use Beautiful Curls curly to kinky activation cream mixed with a tiny bit of Giovanni hair gel, but when really hot and humid, I just do braids.”
“Baking soda, Apple cider vinegar. Boom.”
“Camellia oil, coconut oil to deep condition overnight, Keracolor Clenditioner to wash.”
“I mix coconut oil and rosemary essential oil in my spray bottle and I mist/scrunch my curls to keep the frizz down. I twist and then air dry my hair after a shower, never blow dry and never brush it when it is wet.”
“I use Griffin Remedy shampoo and conditioner (mostly just condition, but occasionally shampoo scalp only) Griffin Remedy is vegan and doesn’t have detergent or fragrance. It’s lovely to use. I have a boar bristle brush that I use to stimulate the scalp and move oil down the hair. I braid my hair to sleep, so it won’t tangle at night.”
“Deva Curl Everything for this coarse and frizzy mop.”
“Deva Curl is way to heavy for my fine hair. I love Hairstory New Wash. It has pretty much solved my hair woes and I don’t use any products any more.”
“My fine curls come and go depending on the length, mood, weather. When I see them starting to form, I encourage them with the plop dry method using a t-shirt.”
“I use pure castor oil. Feels kind of like hair gel and works as well as any product i’ve ever used. Although when I wear my hair fully curly, I use Deva Curl products as a safety net fro frizz and overall craziness. The thing with castor oil is that you can only use the teeniest. I have crazy thick hair and anything more than a pea sized amount makes my hair look greasy.”
“Bumble+Bumble’s Hairdresser’s Invisible Oil is my absolute favorite, but I am also partial Davines Beautifying Oil.”
“I almost never use shampoo but condition every time I shower. It’s dry where I live, so sometimes before bed I put some coconut oil directly into my hair. I also use Acure leave-in conditioner and Living Libations hair mask sometimes (mostly cause I love the smell!) I use various curl styling balms but have never found one that I absolutely swear by. Ocean times are the best times……….”
“I have very fine hair that is also very curly (4a) It hates coconut oil and adores a quarter sized dallop of castor oil, along with a leave in conditioner that’s all it needs. Too little product and it becomes dry and brittle which leads to breakage. Too much product and it becomes oily and frizzy. Castor oil must be applied OVER the leave-in while soaking wet, and wrapped in a microfiber towel before air drying. My hair is not porous and needs warm to hot water rinses to help the oil penetrate. No shampoo, as it literally strips it till it breaks off so I use diluted Vinegar rinses, bentonite clay masks and scalp massages to remove excess buildup. Too much de-tangling will completely separate all the tiny curls creating frizz, I must use caution if I want curls and not frizz, making sure to de-tangle it while water is rushing over my head. Welcome to my world!”
“Shea Moisture shampoos and conditioners have been amazing for helping my dry curls. Deva Curl products have not held up in the humidity for me.”
“My curls are especially tricky because they are fine/thin. Giving up shampoo a few years ago worked wonders for me. I’ve also had good luck with Deva Curl styling products.
The Deva Curl line and their philosophy gives me amazing curls. But I would still love to give up ALL commercial hair products. No shampoo or conditioner…….”
“Less is more is definitely my MO for my hair. I love the Hairstory line because they really embrace this philosophy. Keep it simple. New Wash is great for my curls.”
“I literally don’t touch my curls in between rinsing them with warm water occasionally. I spritz them with rose water when they are dry.”
“Swimming in lakes gives me the best possible curls in the Summer!”
“Never rinse out your conditioner.”
“I use Mermaid Hair by Beth Kaya….Sea salt and coconut oil blend plus some other ingredients that make my hair soft, bouncy and smelling nice. Great for fine hair like me because it won’t weight it down. Also, my hair dries quickly so I comb through it in the shower with conditioner and a pic.”
“I wash it once a week with conditioner and let it sit while I do everything else, and use shampoo every other week. I also like to brush it out before my shower-It’s very Gilda Radner- Or use a wide toothed comb while conditioner is in. I style it by twisting it with coconut oil while it’s damo and then go to bed with it draped over my pillow. My ringlets will last up to 10 days with this method. Oh, and a solid scalp massage with conditioner is key for overall well-being!
I wash mine twice a week and condition it every day. I add some leave-in after I brush it out-while it’s still wet, and sort of scrunch it with my head upside down. I have extremely curly hair so this really keeps it tame.”
“I wash it twice a week before bedtime. Part it where I want it parted while it’s still wet. Air dry 75% (slightly damp) Spread it out on my pillow so I’m not lying on it. Sleep. Done. It’s finer than baby fine, there isn’t much of it and it frizzes easily, so I try not to touch it too much. Jaw clips seem to keep the frizz minimal after use if I need to get it out of my face during the day. I just recently started embracing my texture after years of regular half-assed straightening. Only took 25 years or so to finally figure it out! Someone asked me today if I had extensions and I almost died of happiness!”
“I wash it once or twice a week MAX, Morrocan oil, brush out the knots, up in a bun for a bi, let it out, air dry. I think not over-washing it is the key, at least for me.”
“Salt water is magical medicine for this wavy-haired mermaid!”
“My curly hair is so dry- I try not to wash it too much. After a wash I tend to put rose hip oil in it. Or if I don’t have that, I use good olive oil. It is very long at the moment so it goes into a bun or plait during the day. My hair is always easiest to style and manage after I have been in salt water. Not sure what it does but it looks so much better. If I could get that look all the time I would be happy!”
“Braids, Oils and a wooden wide-toothed comb.”
“I swear by washing it only once a week or longer. I love conditioner and soaking it in Apple cider vinegar. Combing it while it’s wet and air-drying are key. I like to brush it BEFORE I wash it.”
Owners of these quotes can all be found by searching the hashtag #HTHGCurlwisdom on Instagram and scrolling through comments. Again, thank you all so much for contributing!
I didn’t put links in for products because I’m simply not in the mood to try and sell anything to anyone. Just want to share your wisdom.
Do you have curly hair wisdom to share? We would sure love to hear it…..Drop it into the comment section if you feel like passing it on to us.
with much curly haired love to all, and major gratitude to all of you who shared.
Here for a list of my favorite oils, remedies and tricks for curly haired babes.