Curly Hair Wisdom from your Best Curl Friends

IMG_2511Hi babes it’s me, your curly haired curl friend.

! As part 2 of our Curly Hair Series, I wanted to share the wonderful Curly Hair Wisdom that was passed to me when I posted the Question “What are your favorite Curly Hair tips, tricks, oils, remedies, theories, and routines?”

Today, I am thanking all who contributed from the bottom of my heart as I share your answers anonymously so that we can all hopefully learn a few new Curly Hair tricks worth trying.

To begin with, my friend Josie shared this quote, which I love.

When A Curly gal embraces her curls, she has fully embraced herself.

So for all my curly haired sisters, this post is for you, to help inspire you on your hair journey.

Curly Hair Wisdom from your Curl Friends

 


“I think all curly heads learn that shampoo is a rarity and conditioner is a daily, be it coconut oil, argan oil, castor oil, or a leave-in conditioning cream. I have them all in rotation and decide in the moment what is needed. Brushes feel amazing on my scalp, but make my curls wild ) Well, wilder) for a few days, so combing with fingers or something as lovely as a wooden comb are essential.”

 

“Always go alcohol-free on all that touches your curls, and moisturize with a hair mask at least every other week.

I’ve taken to Fractionated coconut oil along with shea butter after a wash with Suave shampoo and some Nubian conditioner.”

“Argan oil over naturally dried hair!

“My trick for smooth curls on my daughters hair is using Lush’s Hair Honey and Plant Makeup’s Herbal Mist.”

“Love my curly locks! I don’t brush my curls, except when my hair is wet. Also, I like to condition with coconut oil masque twice a week. I use Argan oil to smooth it out, and a coconut based gel to tame it.”

“When it comes down to the brass tax of 33 years of curls, (and a hairstylist mother trying every last trick and product in the book ) twist those towel-blotted locks with coconut oil while fresh out of the shower, pick it out during a heavy conditioning and they will last a week!”

“I bring out my curls by drying them with a cotton t-shirt instead of a towel.”

“I have a lot of dark brown curls. I have been searching for organic, natural hair care for years. I wash my hair once a week.. I brush my scalp before I wash my hair with Shea Moisture shampoo, and use a comb when I condition it. I use Yarok Feed your Curls and Yarok Feed Your Ends as styling products, and scrunch it while it dries.”

“No shampoo except once or twice a month! Condition the whole time i’m in the shower, then comb with a wide toothed comb. Add yummy moisture product. Curl with my fingers, and keep scrunching!”

“No washing, lot’s of sweat and brushing. I use 2 kinds of brushes, wooden to get the tangles out, then synthetic bristle to smooth. Then a lot of times I smooth argan oil over the baby hairs and ends, for a little bit of a wetted down wavy look. But unlike most, I love a humid, misty rainy day for my hair so if it’s doing that outside, that is all I need!”

“Hairstory New Wash once a week, Hairstory Hair Balm every time I rinse. Scrunch it in wet, shake it out as it dries!”

“Not only do I have curls, but I have lots and lots of gray curls! Coconut oil is my favorite, brushed though the root using my Free Your Hair Brush and putting it in braids before going to bed ( my mother always said ‘Never brush curly hair…….’ Oh how wrong she was! ) This routine helps to soften the kinks and keep the frizz down.”

“Conditioner. I can do without shampoo. I would still love to not rely on commercial conditoner. One product I love is homemade hair gel. 1/4 cup flax seeds, 2 cups water, boil until the consistancy of egg whites, strain and add your favorite essential oil. I scrunch this into my hair in the shower when it is sopping wet. Love!”

“I’ve been rinsing my hair with one cup of strong chamomile tea mixed with one drop chamomile essential oil, then sitting in the sun.”

“A drop or two of rosemary essential oil is the absolute best for adding shine to your hair. Better than any shine drops/serum/spray I have ever used!”

“Someone told me to mix up salt in warm water and spray it in my hair to add a little extra curl.”

“I use a little Dr. Bronner’s on my scalp every few days. Rinse with rosemary and chamomile for natural highlights. Then scrunch in some conditioner and use Deva Curl styling cream. I make sure my hair is super wet and air dry it slowly for the best curl.”

“Condition, condition, condition! I only use a soft t-shirt to scrunch my hair dry after a shower and really integrate in when my hair is still very wet. Lately I’ve been sectioning my hair before twisting to help define my curl more. It takes a little while but I love having time for self care. I only brush my hair before wash day.”

“I have really thick curly to kinky hair and I use Beautiful Curls curly to kinky activation cream mixed with a tiny bit of Giovanni hair gel, but when really hot and humid, I just do braids.”

“Baking soda, Apple cider vinegar. Boom.”

“Camellia oil, coconut oil to deep condition overnight, Keracolor Clenditioner to wash.”

“I mix coconut oil and rosemary essential oil in my spray bottle and I mist/scrunch my curls to keep the frizz down. I twist and then air dry my hair after a shower, never blow dry and never brush it when it is wet.”

“I use Griffin Remedy shampoo and conditioner (mostly just condition, but occasionally shampoo scalp only) Griffin Remedy is vegan and doesn’t have detergent or fragrance. It’s lovely to use. I have a boar bristle brush that I use to stimulate the scalp and move oil down the hair. I braid my hair to sleep, so it won’t tangle at night.”

“Deva Curl Everything for this coarse and frizzy mop.”

“Deva Curl is way to heavy for my fine hair. I love Hairstory New Wash. It has pretty much solved my hair woes and I don’t use any products any more.”

“My fine curls come and go depending on the length, mood, weather. When I see them starting to form, I encourage them with the plop dry method using a t-shirt.”

“I use pure castor oil. Feels kind of like hair gel and works as well as any product i’ve ever used. Although when I wear my hair fully curly, I use Deva Curl products as a safety net fro frizz and overall craziness. The thing with castor oil is that you can only use the teeniest. I have crazy thick hair and anything more than a pea sized amount makes my hair look greasy.”

“Bumble+Bumble’s Hairdresser’s Invisible Oil is my absolute favorite, but I am also partial Davines Beautifying Oil.”

“I almost never use shampoo but condition every time I shower. It’s dry where I live, so sometimes before bed I put some coconut oil directly into my hair. I also use Acure leave-in conditioner and Living Libations hair mask sometimes (mostly cause I love the smell!) I use various curl styling balms but have never found one that I absolutely swear by. Ocean times are the best times……….”

“I have very fine hair that is also very curly (4a) It hates coconut oil and adores a quarter sized dallop of castor oil, along with a leave in conditioner that’s all it needs. Too little product and it becomes dry and brittle which leads to breakage. Too much product and it becomes oily and frizzy. Castor oil must be applied OVER the leave-in while soaking wet, and wrapped in a microfiber towel before air drying. My hair is not porous and needs warm to hot water rinses to help the oil penetrate. No shampoo, as it literally strips it till it breaks off so I use diluted Vinegar rinses, bentonite clay masks and scalp massages to remove excess buildup. Too much de-tangling will completely separate all the tiny curls creating frizz, I must use caution if I want curls and not frizz, making sure to de-tangle it while water is rushing over my head. Welcome to my world!”

“Shea Moisture shampoos and conditioners have been amazing for helping my dry curls. Deva Curl products have not held up in the humidity for me.”

“My curls are especially tricky because they are fine/thin. Giving up shampoo a few years ago worked wonders for me. I’ve also had good luck with Deva Curl styling products.

The Deva Curl line and their philosophy gives me amazing curls. But I would still love to give up ALL commercial hair products. No shampoo or conditioner…….”

“Less is more is definitely my MO for my hair. I love the Hairstory line because they really embrace this philosophy. Keep it simple. New Wash is great for my curls.”

“I literally don’t touch my curls in between rinsing them with warm water occasionally. I spritz them with rose water when they are dry.”

“Swimming in lakes gives me the best possible curls in the Summer!”

“Never rinse out your conditioner.”

“I use Mermaid Hair by Beth Kaya….Sea salt and coconut oil blend plus some other ingredients that make my hair soft, bouncy and smelling nice. Great for fine hair like me because it won’t weight it down. Also, my hair dries quickly so I comb through it in the shower with conditioner and a pic.”

“I wash it once a week with conditioner and let it sit while I do everything else, and use shampoo every other week. I also like to brush it out before my shower-It’s very Gilda Radner- Or use a wide toothed comb while conditioner is in. I style it by twisting it with coconut oil while it’s damo and then go to bed with it draped over my pillow. My ringlets will last up to 10 days with this method. Oh, and a solid scalp massage with conditioner is key for overall well-being!

I wash mine twice a week and condition it every day. I add some leave-in after I brush it out-while it’s still wet, and sort of scrunch it with my head upside down. I have extremely curly hair so this really keeps it tame.”

“I wash it twice a week before bedtime. Part it where I want it parted while it’s still wet. Air dry 75% (slightly damp) Spread it out on my pillow so I’m not lying on it. Sleep. Done. It’s finer than baby fine, there isn’t much of it and it frizzes easily, so I try not to touch it too much. Jaw clips seem to keep the frizz minimal after use if I need to get it out of my face during the day. I just recently started embracing my texture after years of regular half-assed straightening. Only took 25 years or so to finally figure it out! Someone asked me today if I had extensions and I almost died of happiness!”

“I wash it once or twice a week MAX, Morrocan oil, brush out the knots, up in a bun for a bi, let it out, air dry. I think not over-washing it is the key, at least for me.”

“Salt water is magical medicine for this wavy-haired mermaid!”

“My curly hair is so dry- I try not to wash it too much. After a wash I tend to put rose hip oil in it. Or if I don’t have that, I use good olive oil. It is very long at the moment so it goes into a bun or plait during the day. My hair is always easiest to style and manage after I have been in salt water. Not sure what it does but it looks so much better. If I could get that look all the time I would be happy!”

“Braids, Oils and a wooden wide-toothed comb.”

“I swear by washing it only once a week or longer. I love conditioner and soaking it in Apple cider vinegar. Combing it while it’s wet and air-drying are key. I like to brush it BEFORE I wash it.”

Owners of these quotes can all be found by searching the hashtag #HTHGCurlwisdom on Instagram and scrolling through comments. Again, thank you all so much for contributing!

I didn’t put links in for products because I’m simply not in the mood to try and sell anything to anyone. Just want to share your wisdom.


Do you have curly hair wisdom to share? We would sure love to hear it…..Drop it into the comment section if you feel like passing it on to us.

with much curly haired love to all, and major gratitude to all of you who shared.

Here for a list of my favorite oils, remedies and tricks for curly haired babes.

HTHG

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tribe de Mama Sacred Self Care Brushing Ritual

7U6A7353Hello mamas! This post is for all of us who are mothers to children, pets, and/or ourselves. Even papas can be mamas, so this is for you too.

This year has been all about healing through re-connection. Coming out of the dark and into the light. Keeping our shadows close as we walk in the sun, honoring all sides of ourselves and loving the parts of us that we keep hidden and beginning to let those parts out of hiding. Remembering that our path can only be navigated with true clarity when dark and light are both at work.

Self-Care during transitional times in life becomes more important as we grow older and experience bigger life changes. We begin to understand the importance of staying present, and trusting ourselves. We learn to stop abusing ourselves with critical words aimed at our own hearts, and learn to love and accept ourselves as a mother should, whether we had a loving mother or not.

We start to gravitate towards the people and the experiences that allow us to express and accept love, and we find the tools that help us invoke and manifest that love. We learn that mindfulness, meditation, ritual, and ceremony are one and the same, and can be infused into even the smallest tasks in life.

7U6A7383Prayer is the same as manifestation, and to experience it’s potency we can use equal parts gratitude, hope, love and imagination. To access these 4 celestial commodities, we begin by cultivating a deeper connection to everything and everyone around us, including ourselves.

We learn that by offering, we receive. And all paths lead back to the source, the mama, the mother in all of us that loves us into being and teaches us to care for ourselves. Sacred self-care, radical self love.

As mamas, let’s love ourselves first.


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Hair Brushing Ritual

 

Here is my favorite ritual for self-care. You can do it on your own, or with your children or a friend.

You just need a HAIRBRUSH, and your FAVORITE ESSENTIAL OIL, and a quiet 5 minutes.


By cultivating this practice, allow the healing and eye-opening power of Sacred Self-Care to seep into your life, one brush stroke at a time.

  • Find a quiet, peaceful place
  • Sit down, take a deep breath. Breathe for a minute, inhaling fresh, cleansing breaths, and exhaling stagnancy. Breath in the new and out the old.
  • Set an intention for your brushing session…..What do you want to manifest into your life? And what are you ready to let go of?
  • Apply your favorite essential oil or Crown Chakra Oil to your fingertips….Just a few drops. Breath in the scent and let it envelop you for the moment. Spend a few moments massaging it into your scalp, beginning with the temples and working towards the top and back of the head.
  • 7U6A7288Begin to brush your hair, first gently de-tangling the ends, then working your way through to the scalp. Close your eyes, and breath.
  • Hold you body in alignment. Sit bones tucked under, pelvis tilted ever-so-slightly forwards, shoulders open, head resting softly on your neck. Strength without tightness in your core. Keep breathing.
  • As you brush, imagine what you are letting go of. Begin by brushing any negative feelings that you have felt or that have been imposed on you regarding your hair. Brush out anyone who ever told you that you didn’t have good hair. Brush out anyone who ever made you feel like you weren’t good enough in general. Brush out criticism that you impose on yourself throughout the day. As you hair softens with each brush stroke, the tone with which you speak to your own self softens.

7U6A7501 (1)We are also mothers to ourselves, let’s not forget how important it is to care for ourselves and speak to ourselves with love. Loving words and nurturing care build healthy children, bountiful gardens, and centered, strong mamas.

  • Brush out old energy, old habits, negativity, restlessnessBe here for the moment, enjoying this beautiful demonstration of self care on our sacred crowns, and our sixth sense, our hair barometer to the world around us.
  • Brush your hair from all directions, Inviting with gratitude in through your crown the winds of change and rebirth, the fresh air of the East, the sensuous, emotional and creative waters of the West, where the sun sets with anything we are ready to put to rest, the fires of the South that ignite our passion for life, and the earth element of the North which grounds us, roots growing through the ground so that we may safely explore the cosmos without loosing our footing.
  • Flip your head upside down and let your blood flow to your scalp, bringing vitality and circulation. Brush your hair upside down and imagine your cells dividing faster with the friction of the brush and the blood flowing to your hair follicles. New Growth, New Life.
  • Now sit upright again, hair big and wild. Eyes closed. Brush resting on your lap. Keep breathing. Wait a moment and stay present with all of the feelings and sensations of your body.
  • Invite your mind to be still and quiet as you focus your energy on your breath and the sensations of your physical body.
  • Open your eyes. Pick up your brush, and begin to remove the hairs from it, pulling out as many as you can all at once, thanking your brush, your sacred self care tool, for helping you channel this invocation. All these hairs that you have removed represent everything you brushed out of your hair, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Offer them to the ground, (garden?) or to the fire (burn them) , or to the water (river?)  or to the air (feed them to the breeze) Say goodbye to them and open yourself to new growth, to the manifestations of your visions and hard work, and to love.

*This ritual is especially potent on the Full Moon and the New Moon.


7U6A7557Please visit Tribe de Mama for more musings on Mama Life, and visit the Tribe de Mama Instagram for our Free Your Hair Brush/ TDM special promo-code for a discount on your beautiful hand finished, mixed-bristle hairbrush. #freeyourhairbrush

Thank you to the Mama featured in this post, Marriah Berquist, and her magical daughters baby Ocean and big sis Pilot (Queen of DIY haircuts.)

xo, HTHG

Tourmaline Twists and Mineral Power!

IMG_1531Hey babes. Today I wanted to share a quick hairstyle I did on my daughter after we colored her hair with the Psychedelic Sunset using the ColorPrinting Panel Art method……and her color gradually faded to the perfect marbled Tourmaline Blue. Then, after obsessing on the beauty of her hair and the Tourmaline Mineral Stone for a while, I went down the rabbit hole of reading up on tourmaline health benefits. Click link for more info on the power of the mineral! 🙂IMG_1447

This hairstyle was very easy to do, once her hair had been thoroughly crimped ( Yes, I’m still obsessed with my Mini Crimper.) I think that these twists would work really well in curly/kinky textured hair with a lot of poof to it.

Here is how we got these super cool and organic looking hairstyle.IMG_1458

Part the hair down the middle. Take all the hair from one side of the part, and begin a twist on the side of the head, twisting backwards and guiding the twist towards the center part in back. (Here for twisting clarity)

Once all the hair from that side is twisted in, continue twisting to the ends of the hair. Pull the twist across the part to the other side, and use a large bobby pin to pin the ends to the head securely. Add more pins if needed……We only needed one pin for each side due to the fact that her hair had so much texture from the crimping that it wanted to stay wherever I put it!IMG_1454

Repeat the same steps on the other side, twisting the ends of the first twist into the second twist as you work your way back. IMG_1451Pull the ends of the 2nd twist across to the other side, tucking the ends under your first twist to hide them. Pin this twist into place.IMG_1448

Voila! Add more pins if needed to secure your twists.

Now channel the soothing and grounding watery qualities of the tourmaline mineral as you glide through your day with your Tourmaline Twists.

xo, HTHG

 

Kale: Super Food for Hair

7U6A1817Yes it’s true my babes. Kale, especially Lacinato Kale (the darkest, heartiest leafiest kale!) is a potent superfood…..But you already know that right? In the Northwest, it is hard to miss the big deal about kale because people proclaim their love for it on their smart cars by putting bumper stickers that say I LOVE KALE and wearing t-shirts with the same slogan on them. And every menu at every restaurant in town features a kale salad.

Screen Shot 2016-01-13 at 12.10.52 PMKale grows really well here, which is nice. It is a hearty plant in the brassica family, and we eat

Here at HTHG, we proclaim our love by growing it, eating it, and decorating our friend’s hair with it…….And by spreading the word of the potent Healthy Hair Growth Qualities of Kale. Here are 3 reasons to eat kale to feed your hair.

Folic Acid- B Vitamins support healthy cell function and aid in cell growth, and our hair depends on the rapid division of cells (mitosis) to grow (thanks, B Vitamins, for the extra boost!)

Iron- Increases circulation to the scalp, helping to prevent hair loss and helping stimulate hair growth, while boosting and strengthening our blood supply ( Great for women!)

Sulfur-  Is essential to the protein production of hair, and increases the length of the Anagen (growth) phase of hair, helping hair grow strong and fast!

My favorite way to eat kale is like this:

HTHG’s Favorite Kale Salad

Pick some fresh leaves, BAM! rinse em and chop em up pretty small. Put em in a bowl, squeeze half a lemon on em, drizzle of olive oil, (BAM!) sprinkle of salt BAM!

Now, (here is why I really love this dish) wash your hands, and massage that kale, crushing it with your hands in working in your dressing. Zone out while you massage that kale. Think of all the people who told you not to play with your food and send them a little mental picture of your hands all over that salad.

Once it’s all mixed up and wilty, let it sit on the counter for as long as you want……It will begin the breaking down process immediately and as it sits it will soften and become easier to chew and easier to digest. (Yay lactobacteria!!!)

When you are ready to eat it, add other things like sliced red onion, roasted nuts, and cranberries. Everyone likes this salad, even people who think they don’t like kale.

Other ways to use kale are: Stick a couple leaves in a smoothie, make kale butter/pesto, and make kale chips (my kids love them!) put them in soup, or munch on em straight off the plant.

Eat kale, grow hair, live strong. 7U6A1813

Check out a little photo-tutorial of this Kale Braid by following HTHG on Instagram : @howtohairgirl

xo, HTHG

Tribe de Mama Guestpost: Earth Medicine for your Hair and Skin

witchHello dears. I wanted to take a minute to share a post I wrote for Tribe de Mama, a wonderful conscious mothering magazine that I read and really love.

The post is about a lovely ritual to treat the hair and skin, inspired by the Nomadic Saamii tribes of Northern Europe who used the elements of the earth to heal and treat, combining generational plant wisdom and potent spirituality to craft their rituals.

I am really enjoying researching and learning about different self-care rituals from different cultures. I feel really strongly about the importance of self care, (especially for mamas!)  and creating our own self-care rituals with intention and mindfulness, giving heed to the healing powers of our natural world. I want our daughters to witness my journey and internalize the gift of caring for and honoring themselves.

I hope you enjoy this post:) I sure enjoyed writing it and performing it with my girls.

If you are a mama searching for a place to belong among other conscious mamas, I invite you to follow @tribedemama on Instagram, and subscribe to the mag.

xo, HTHG

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