Honoring our Daughters with Braids

IMG_7527Hello hair friends and sisters:)

This post today is dedicated to the daughters of the world, which is all of us with possibly some additional sons, and this is for them too, if they are into braiding their hair with flowers, and if they are, we salute and love them for it.

I want to be the kind of mom who honors my children for truly who they are, and I want them to be the kind of kids who understand that and know it deep in their hearts. And it is so hard sometimes to nurture that connection and love when we are stuck on the hamster wheel of ‘normal life.’

A month ago, I took my kids out of school for 2 weeks because I wanted them to be able to run free in the Ozarks and spend time with their loved ones and friends in our other hometown of Fayetteville Arkansas. And I needed a chance to remember who I am, and who they are, and why and how I love them.

I had been feeling increasingly out of touch with them in our busy Seattle life……Our days a routine of rushing them around and then feeling frustrated at their slow pace.

IMG_7417Being a mom is really hard because I often feel like the asshole, or I like to call it a momhole, if you will ( DON’T google it! No DON’T!) We simply don’t get enough time to just relax together (much less on our own!) , follow our curiosity, and just be without plans to keep us rushing around like rats in a race. We desperately needed some time to slow down together.

On top of feeling like a momhole in general, there is also the guilt of motherhood and womanhood, where everything we do is in opposition to what we should be doing, no matter what we are doing. What?????????? wtf. Makes one want to just say fuck it, I’m just going to do whatever I want forever.

IMG_7447Which is what we did in Arkansas last month, and it was divine. We crashed couches, we invited ourselves over to the homes of some of our favorite people, we ate, we danced, we played, we slept, we spent mothers day in our underwear lounging around like sloths, and we worshipped the great mama in the river with some of our best friends.

2 full weeks just BEING with our daughters, letting our little community hold us, not rushing, and just letting our days unfold was the best therapy that we could have asked for.

IMG_7512As we drove back to the airport at the end of our trip, a 4 hour journey to Kansas City, the guilt started to creep back in. What kind of mother would give up this sort of life? What kind of mother would leave the sweet community that raised her a mother, to move to a city that is no longer hospitable to part-time working parents who refuse to not be there to watch their kids grow up?

We drove past a sign advertising the Gentry Animal Safari…….Just 15 miles up the road!

IMG_7503What kind of mother would drive past the Animal Safari and not stop so her kids could see the weirdness of totally not native animals roaming the land that WallMart bought? What kind of mother would not let her children hand feed a kangaroo white bread while drinking coke and eating red vines and hot dogs cooked in rancid oil?

What kind of fucking mother am I.

And then, as if by magic, a literal field of beautiful wild flowers entered my vision on the side of the freeway. Hark! A Park!  I pulled the car over, and we ran together into the middle of the field. We all knew what to do. We sat at flower level, watching butterflies flutter by and listening to the sound of the flowers sing.

As I watched them frolic in absolute joy and wonder, I forgave myself for all the things I don’t do for them. As I braided their hair, I bowed to them in my heart, honoring them for being who they are and reminding me to stop beating myself up for not doing more for them. In my own annoying mom way, I tried to telepathically beam that straight down their throats and into their joyful little hearts.

There is nothing like braiding someones hair to show them that you honor them:)

If you are a mama, braid your kids hair. If you have a mama, braid her hair for her.

Thanks for reading my rambles:)

Here are the braids I gave them.

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Pretty self explanatory, although the trick for this second one is that I pulled out all the hair along just the outer edge of both braids, instead of both edges. Then used pins to secure the braids across the back of the head to the other side, and tucked and pinned the ends of the braids underneath.

Honor yourselves, Honor your daughters. Lot’s of love.

Also, PS. Our youngest daughter Selah is graduating from Preschool today so I’m feeling very sentimental.

xoxo, HTHG

 

Tourmaline Twists and Mineral Power!

IMG_1531Hey babes. Today I wanted to share a quick hairstyle I did on my daughter after we colored her hair with the Psychedelic Sunset using the ColorPrinting Panel Art method……and her color gradually faded to the perfect marbled Tourmaline Blue. Then, after obsessing on the beauty of her hair and the Tourmaline Mineral Stone for a while, I went down the rabbit hole of reading up on tourmaline health benefits. Click link for more info on the power of the mineral! 🙂IMG_1447

This hairstyle was very easy to do, once her hair had been thoroughly crimped ( Yes, I’m still obsessed with my Mini Crimper.) I think that these twists would work really well in curly/kinky textured hair with a lot of poof to it.

Here is how we got these super cool and organic looking hairstyle.IMG_1458

Part the hair down the middle. Take all the hair from one side of the part, and begin a twist on the side of the head, twisting backwards and guiding the twist towards the center part in back. (Here for twisting clarity)

Once all the hair from that side is twisted in, continue twisting to the ends of the hair. Pull the twist across the part to the other side, and use a large bobby pin to pin the ends to the head securely. Add more pins if needed……We only needed one pin for each side due to the fact that her hair had so much texture from the crimping that it wanted to stay wherever I put it!IMG_1454

Repeat the same steps on the other side, twisting the ends of the first twist into the second twist as you work your way back. IMG_1451Pull the ends of the 2nd twist across to the other side, tucking the ends under your first twist to hide them. Pin this twist into place.IMG_1448

Voila! Add more pins if needed to secure your twists.

Now channel the soothing and grounding watery qualities of the tourmaline mineral as you glide through your day with your Tourmaline Twists.

xo, HTHG

 

Urban Foraging for Winter Hairstyles: Baby Fern Chignon

There is a language and personality to each plant, and when we tune in to it, we stop feeling alone, we connect to our roots, and we start to understand the symbiotic healing relationship between ourselves and the natural world.

Since I was a child, I have always felt a very strong sense of personality coming from the plant world.

Last year I took a short course with Marysia Miernowska of The Gaia School of Healing at the Spiritweavers Gathering and I learned that this inner sense of plant personality understanding was an inkling of the ancient plant wisdom that has been passed down to me from thousands of years worth of ancestry in cultures which relied on plant wisdom to treat and heal……

Our roots run deep, and the world of plants is one worth paying attention and listening to.7U6A6588

That being said, there is almost nothing that makes me feel more joyful and like I want to do a little dance than FERNS! Yeesh!

In the Pacific Northwest, ferns come in many forms, colors, and textures but all seem to have a common friendliness and sense of invitation to them. They reach out and wave at me as I walk around the neighborhood, reaching out to touch me every chance they get!

When there are many ferns around, the air feels very clean to me, as if ferns help to filter the air….I can breath deeply……I am aware of my lungs all of the sudden.

Ferns have a likeness to hair in the way they grow and move, and plants that have a resemblance to hair or have actual tiny hairs growing on them tend to be helpful in treating pulmonary ailments……Helping to repair the tiny hairs which filter clean air into our lungs, the protective cilia. The fern tells me that it can help me purify my lungs if needed. Thank you, Fern!

This, my friends, is a little example of the way my mind works when I am out in nature, among the plants. Even in the middle of the city, where I live, I am surrounded by them. What a blessing:) And yes, I am that girl who is talking to plants.

When one tugs at a single thing in nature, he/she finds it attached to the rest of the world -John Muir

HereIMG_9990-2 for my Mandala Making tutorial on Filth and Beauty.

 

Moving on to hair…..and with a deep love and reverence for ferns, this lovely hairstyle combines the gentle botanical beauty of ferns with the classic beauty of a modernized-chignon.

Baby Fern Chignon

 

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This simple hairstyle begins with the gathering of ferns. Smaller baby ferns of fronds from the Maidenhair Fern are a great choice for decorating:)

Begin by sectioning the hair into 2 large sections, across the back of the head from ear to ear. Your part doesn’t need to be precise;)

Take all the hair in the bottom section in one hand and begin to twist it in one direction, starting at the base of the section, twisting all the way to the ends.

Wind the twist into a soft bun, and pin it from several points to secure it to the head.

Now, take the top section, twist it in the same direction, directing it to the top/side of your first bun.

Wind it into a small separate bun, snugging it into place next to the first one.

Pin it securely.

Now, decorate your hairstyle with fern fronds, using small hair pins to keep each fern in place. Have a friend help you if you need it, or situate 2 mirrors so you can see behind your head to work on your fern design.

Just lovely!

I am glad to not feel like the weird one who makes friends with and talks to plants anymore. This past year has really been about owning my oddball traits and recognizing where they come from, and understanding that embracing them really means tapping into an inner wisdom and power and truth. I hope you all are learning to love all the dynamic sides of yourselves:)

Thanks, all for being here:)

French Twist for my Shorties.

french twistHi my dears! I want to share this little hairstyle that I shot a few months ago, back when my blue nangs were bangin.

I was having a hopeless hairday when my hair just felt so short, and I felt helpless to wear it any other way then just down and blah. I decided to challenge myself to see if I could pull off the worlds little-ist short hair french twist……And to my suprise it looked quite cute, especially after I added a little vine-y floral touch to it. (duh!)

To get this look on short hair, the trick is to split the hair into 2 sections, one on top of the head, and one underneath.

7U6A6304The top section is twisted and pinned from the top downwards, and then the bottom section is twisted and pulled up and over the ends of the first twist, and then pinned snuggly into place to create the look of one twist. I had to use many pins and do quite a bit of tucking……That is where the little flowers came in handy, to hide all the pins;)

 

P.s. I Color my nangs with Turquoise Tinge:)

 

Voila! xo

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