On Leaving Fear Behind

img112Dear readers: This post is not hair related, it is an offering to you of a personal experience that has helped me learn. I want to thank you all for being here, reading my words, and believing in what I do. Without you all, none of this would be happening.

Because of you, I have had the nerve to share myself in a way that has been both healing and empowering, you have accompanied me through the journey of the last 5 years of my life, and I am eternally grateful. I can only hope that you have gained valuable insight, inspiration, (great hair;) and knowledge as well……I thank you from the bottom and the top of my heart.

DSC03905This post is about following your heart, making the jump, opening new doors, leaving behind fear. The photos in this post are from our first ShamPHree shoot, several years ago at the buffalo river with a big group of wonderful women, jumping off bluffs in dresses. Photos are by me, with the exception of the black and whites, which were shot by Bob Cochran. I know, I know. You have already seen these photos if you have been reading HTHG for a while now…..They keep popping up. Why? because jumping off seems to be a central theme here at HTHG. ‘Stuck in hair, stuck in life;)’

On Leaving Fear Behind

You are such a selfish asshole. Also, you are a complete idiot. What makes you think that you should follow your heart, and do what every cell in your body knows you should do? I am the fear part of your brain.) You are firmly in my grasp. I dare you to defy me.I apologize for beginning this essay with such a graphic display of self-abuse. But this is the backdrop for my story.

It’s stunning for me to realize how much time and energy I spend beating myself up. Internally, I am constantly in a battle to try to hold down the voice of my own heart for no other reason than bad habit and a well-worn neuropath that depends upon fear. Fear seems to be my path of least resistance.

I spend a lot of time riding this well-worn road in my head, allowing fear to keep me stuck in life, holding me back from the goodness of letting go of old comforts in pursuit of unknown blessings.

img1256 months ago, my heart tried to stop traffic on fear’s busy 4-lane highway. Heart signaled that it wanted me to quit my job as a hairstylist at a salon which I have loved and for most of my adult life. Deep down, I knew that I had to pursue an impractical yet deeply imaginative and uncharted path of a free-lancing renaissance woman. A small but sure voice suggested that I rely solely on my own skills and ingenuity to create a distinctive career path allows me to create and give back and maximize output energy in meaningful directions. Once I heeded heart’s signal, everywhere I looked, I saw signs that it was time to move on.

While I felt deeply sure of this vision in my heart, the prospect of quitting a job I loved and that had provided sure and steady support for me and my daughters really upset me. It just didn’t make sense. Why would I leave something that I love? I truly loved my job. Sure, there were things about it that were frustrating, but that is par for the course. In my inner dialogue, the loud voice of fear shamed me for considering something as selfish and impractical as a heartfelt choice.

I began to spin out mentally. I knew what I had to do, but I was bewildered as the inner brawl between heart and fear played out in my Self. I felt paralyzed and restless at the same time. The rapid-firing fear was a desperate attempt to distract my heart from following the signs and making an imaginative choice. I was terrified to leave the comfort of a regular gig for an unknown world of independence, even though I knew that it was the right thing. Deep down, I was not only afraid of pursuing a new path but even of leaving behind the comfort of my own fear MO, the place where I go naturally……..I tortured myself for 6 months. I was nearing the edge, afraid to jump.

IMG_4548It seemed as though the closer I got to jumping off and following my heart, the louder the fear spoke in me, with more intensity and determination. Like a junkie, my fear-addicted brain panicked at the thought of being abandoned for the warmth and comfort of a heartfelt choice.

After chatting about my conundrum with a good friend, she said in a very matter of fact way ‘It is time for you to move forward without fear.’ Clear and simple………I remembered past advice from yet another friend, who once called the Fear-based radio station which plays in the forefront of our brains and background of our lives ‘K-Fuckd.’ She had read about it in a book. She found that by calling it this name, it became easier to metaphorically change the station. I carried these bits of advice and metaphors under my wings, moving even closer to the edge.

Several weeks ago, I met a woman who seemingly moved through life without the voice of fear to cloud her connection with her own heart, a woman who manifested her own visions with confidence, humility, and grace, creating a vibrant life of connection and purpose. That I though, is how I want to live. What a relief to follow the heart without fear.

Then, I talked to my mother. She listened, nodded, didn’t try and talk sense into me. She told me she believed in me to make the right choice. I silently vowed to remember this and show the same grace for my daughters when they stood on the edge in life.

The next day, I jumped. I quit my job. I vowed to myself to turn off K-Fuckd every time it started rambling in my head. I vowed to move forward with confidence. Say yes, give back, share with others, make connections, and accept abundance. I vowed to thank my friends and my mom for their words of affirmation. I vowed to stick with my heart through ups and downs, be more kind to myself, and to turn off K-Fuckd, or at least keep the volume turned way down.

IMG_4729Letting go of fear is scary. Fear is VERY assertive and sometimes feels like all we have to hang our hats on. Meanwhile, our hearts are speaking, too, trying to bust through the fog of fear. We can choose to listen, or we can choose to beat ourselves up for entertaining the selfish idea that it is appropriate to listen to our hearts. It can take major overhauling, un-conditioning, self-soothing, and rebuilding to allow ourselves to open that gift……the listening to our hearts gift.

Moral of this story: When you are stuck in life, with all signs pointing to ‘jump’ and all that holds you back is the voice of fear…….. breathe deeply, walk sure-footedly to the edge, jump, and let your heart carry you.

xo, HTHG

Wire Braid Crimping.

7U6A1307Hey babes. I want to take a quick sec to share a fun crimping technique that I recently learned. It is called Wire Braid Crimping.

With this fun technique, you create a stronger, more longer-lasting crimp using braids. The trick is, you braid 18 gauge wire into each braid and it helps form and set the crimp.

We used this technique in Corrina’s cornrows for our 6th Sense Hair Oil hairstyle.

7U6A0971To get the look, first i sprayed her dry hair with Masterbraider, then I braided her hair in cornrows. Once I reached the base of her hairline, I took a long piece of wire and began braiding it into the free-hanging braid.

To do this, you will need to bend the wire in half, and then flip it upside down and hold it by the ‘v’ where it bends, so the ends are hanging. Hold the ‘v’ against your 3 braid sections, taking one end of the wire into one section, and the other wire end into another section of the braid. Continue braiding as you would, incorporating your wire into your braid. When you reach the ends of the braid, use a clear elastic to secure it.

You can do this on as little as 6 free braids or corn-rowed braids on one head of hair to be able to get the effects of the wire. Larger braids won’s be effected by the wire.

Once your braids are in, apply gentle heat by sitting in the sun. You can wear your braids as long as you like, knowing that when you take them down, you will have an awesome crimped hairstyle to rock. 2 for 1!7U6A1026

When you are ready, take your braids out, slide the wire out, shake your hair out, and rock it. 7U6A11787U6A1442Your wires will look insane when you take them out. Put them aside to use in an art piece later on in life.

xoxo, HTHG



How to do Spit Curls/Kiss Curls, DIY.

7U6A0551Hey babes. Hope everyone is having a great day…….Today, I want to share with you all the phenomenal beauty of kiss curls, also called spit-curls (I personally call them spit-curls.)

My first experience with them was in the back of the school bus in the 6th grade. I had just started a new school, and I was terrified and shy. One of the older girls on the bus was named Alateena and she was big and black and beautilful and always had amazing hair that I marveled at. She didn’t appear to know or care that I existed.

One day, to my dismay, Alateena yelled out “Hey white girl! Let me do your hair!” and I scanned the scene to see who she was talking to. I realized she was talking to me. I felt like a million bucks.

Screen Shot 2015-04-22 at 11.57.54 AMSo when the bus driver wasn’t looking, I slid into the seat next to her. She pulled out a comb and a giant tub of Blue Magic Hair Dress and spit-curled the shit out of my hair. This began our morning bus ride hair tradition, which lasted several months, until she got bored of me. I will never forget her long nails, the sticky-stiff feeling of those little flat curls stuck to my head, and the smell of that hair grease.

Screen Shot 2015-04-22 at 12.05.23 PMWhen I saw that spit curls/kiss curls had made their debut on the runways of Givenchy Fall/Winter for 2015, I knew it was time to help usher in their comeback.

Instead of Blue Magic, I opted for a natural alternative, and I tried doing spit curls with straight up Organic Aloe Vera Gel, and had perfect results.

It is particularly important to use a gel that won’t irritate your skin or clog pores, because you will be applying it directly to your skin when you stick your spit curls/kiss curls to your face. This is another reason why the Aloe Vera gel is a fantastic alternative. If your hair is very course or curly and you need a stronger gel, try making a Flax Seed Hair Gel, following this recipe.

How to do Spit Curls/ Kiss Curls



Get your gel and a fine toothed comb. If you can find a disposable mascara wand, they are nice to work with too…….but not a necessity.

Either on yourself or your model, section out small bits of hair around your hairline, where you want your curls to be. If you are someone with alot of baby hairs around your hairline, consider yourself lucky……These curls are a PERFECT way to style and control baby hairs.

Now before we begin, the trick to good spit curls is to find the perfect balance of slick and sticky in your hair to be able to work with these curls. If you are having trouble guiding the curls or sticking them against your face, add more gel. If they are too sticky and keep pulling, add more water.

7U6A05111. Spray down your baby edge hairs so that they are VERY dripping wet. Get a nice finger-scoop of gel and apply it directly into your roots. Work it down your wet hair bits, all the way to the ends. Now the fine teeth of your comb, or your wand, comb the hairs against your face to stick them down and to remove any tangles that could stop you up. kiss curls

2. Making sure your hair is stuck to your head at the roots, use your comb or wand to bring all the hairs sharply in one direction, stuck against your head. This is wave #1.

3. Use a finger to help secure the curl against the head at the base, while using a finger from the other hand to pull wave #2 into place, against the head.

4. While holding #2 in place with a finger, use your wand or comb to move wave #3 into place against the head.

5. Use your fingers to make sure that #3 is securely stuck to the head. Guide your waves around the brow/ear/ or cheekbone, depending on what area of the face you are working on. You get to put them wherever you want them.

5. Continue working in this way, back and forth making waves down the length of the hair. When you get to the ends, use your finger tips to guide them into a nice little curl. This takes patience and a soft touch, but I KNOW you can do it:)

7. Start your next curl, wherever you want it.

8. Add as many curls as you want, spraying the hair more with water as needed to keep it slick and workable. Curl your ends, then let your curls dry into place. They should stay all day, as long as you don’t mess with them.

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May we suggest finishing off a beehive, finger waves, or any other fancy hairstyle where your baby hairs or hairline is exposed with some spit curls/kiss curls? They look SO CUTE in that little corner right in front of your ears, especially if you are one of those people who feels too exposed or stark with your hair all pulled back. It adds total detail and cute vintage femininity to ANY hairstyle.


Add them to a set of Cornrows for a modern/classy hip hop vibe.

Or, give your dude some and make him feel extra beautiful.



xoxo, HTHG

Glitter Dandruff. The Next BIG Thing for Hair.

Dandruff is an over self-diagnosed condition of the scalp which nearly none of us actually have. Many people suffer from ‘dandruff.’ Many more people suffer from glitter.

Glitter has been deemed the ‘Herpes of Crafting’ because once you see it in your craft kit, you are likely to never be able to get rid of it. Generally, people who don’t like glitter REALLY don’t like glitter, because chances are, they have had a bad experience. Maybe they have been infected with it against their will (My waiter the other night had a sparkle on his cheek, unbeknownst to him, which glimmered and gleemed every time he spoke.)

Wearing glitter is a great way to unnerve uptight people in social situations, because it makes them afraid that you might get too close and accidentally touch them. It is also a fantastic way to decorate any and everything, especially if you want to disguise small mistakes…….Messed up nail polish, scratch on your car, scuffed boots etc.

I happen to love glitter. Here is why…..When there is something that you really can’t avoid drawing attention to, glitter will always both attract the eye by sparkling, and distract the eye by diffusion. Which makes Glitter Dandruff the perfect way to distract from ‘dandruff’ or grown out roots.

Here is how to get Glitter Dandruff.


Begin by getting some loose glitter, like this kind ( my favorite for crafting and hair.)

Now find a willing friend to glitter-bomb you. 7U6A8814

Dump a tablespoon of loose glitter into their hands.

7U6A8784Stand back, lean your head over towards them.

Have your friend go “1,2,3 BLOW!”7U6A8798

Wait a couple seconds for the glitter to settle in. 7U6A8800

Now go about your day, shining like a diamond. And if the haters hate, give em a nice big sparkly hug.7U6A8828

More on glitter here.

xoxo, HTHG




5 Killer Hairstyles to try.

Guest Blog Alert! In the mood to try something new? Here are 5 Killer Hairstyles to try! Thanks to Karishma Sehgal for curating this list for us!

It’s true that your locks speak volumes about your personality. While long and straight hair is associated with femininity and beauty, short hair is associated with power and prestige. Hair is a medium of self expression that can work wonders to give your look a facelift! With the concept of power dressing gaining ground and women getting more empowered than ever, many edgy and bold hairstyles have paved their way into the beauty circuit. Seen everywhere from fashion show ramps to boardrooms, these hairstyles are gaining popularity among women from all walks of life. Here is a list of 5 cosmo hairstyles that you must try this year:

  1. Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.30.01 PMBlunt Bobs – Bobs came into being way back in the 1920’s and if trend forecasts are anything to go by, they are here to stay! This season, blunt bobs have made a comeback with Coco Rocha’s look topping the charts. This hairstyle works best for those with fine, straight hair. Other hair types can also pull off this look but with greater maintenance and upkeep. You can work this trend along with straight or side swept bangs, depending on what suits your face shape.
  2.  Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.30.36 PMPixie With An Edge – Pixies have been making waves for the last few years and have had many women boldly embrace this trend. This year, hairstylists have introduced a funky twist to the good ol’ pixie. The latest trend is that of pixies that are angled, razored and big on the crown. Depending on your style and will to experiment, you can ask your hairstylist to give you a pixie that can take you from looking like a rocker chick to a corporate hottie!
  3.  Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.31.16 PMWavy Lob – Kim Kardashian walked into the Grammy’s with her wavy lob this year and left everyone awestruck! The wavy lob has been making many headlines this season with some of the biggest names in tinseltown working this effortless yet chic hairdo! Those of you with medium length hair can easily try out this fun hairstyle at home. If you have straight hair, you can get light curls using a curling iron or by braiding your hair overnight. Work some sea salt spray on your hair and ruffle it with your fingers. Follow it up with light brushing and you’re set!
  4. Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.31.44 PMSlick Bun – If you are someone who doesn’t like going too audacious with your hairstyle but still want to make heads turn, a slick bun can be your go-to hairdo! Spotted at many international Spring/Summer 2015 fashion shows like that of Carolina Hererra’s this year, slick buns work just as well for a day look as they work for an evening updo. Whether your hair is short or long, wavy or straight, you can always try out a bun that will work perfectly for you. To get a flawlessly slick bun, dab on light oil onto your towel dried hair. Let it dry and fasten it in a tight, high ponytail. Wrap your ponytail in a bun and secure it with bobby pins. If there are any flyaways falling on your face, pin them up to the bun.
  5. Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.33.22 PMWet Look Midi – When Rosie Huntignton walked the ramp for Balmain Spring/Summer 2015 sporting wet tresses, stylistas world over knew that a new trend was born. Following the out-of-the-bed hair trend of last year, this year out-of-the-water hair has taken the cake for being one of the edgiest looks of the season. This hairstyle works especially well for mid length hair of any texture. You can wear this look for a formal night event or even a dinner date with your love. To perfect this look, comb your hair at the back and spray it with high shine hair lacquer. It’s as easy as it can get!

These super chic hairstyles are sure to add the needed touch of magic to your stunning outfit, kickass wit and powerful aura. Which of these hairdos is your favorite? Share your pick with us in the comments section below!

Author Bio : Karishma Sehgal

 Screen Shot 2015-02-23 at 12.26.40 PMBeing an ardent fashion, beauty and lifestyle enthusiast, I have contributed to a number of popular lifestyle magazines and blogs. My writings are mostly targeted towards young women on a budget who enjoy the art of looking good. Follow me on on my brand new blog and Twitter!!

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