Tea and Braids: Tradition for family

The other night, we had tea and braids night at my house. It was an excuse to quietly bond with my kids before bedtime. It doesn’t happen often that we get to hang out together, quietly doing projects. Key word quietly. My daughters know how to use their voices.

7U6A5746The girls love Sleepytime tea and Wildflower Honey, collected by our cousins in the Montana Rockies. It feels like a special ritual, and it helps calm them. I am in love with my ceramic mug by my favorite potter, Adrien Miller. 7U6A5751

I have been teaching Marley to sew, a skill that I have collected in tidbits from both my parents, and both my grandmothers. My mom and her mom were very dedicated to following patterns. My dad and his mom were quite bold when it came to winging it and sewing by hand.

I consider my rudimentary sewing skills to be some of the most treasured practical skills that I have. Marley can now thread a needle, knot the thread, make stitches, and tie off the stitches at the end. I recently tried to throw away a tattered old pair of her underwear that had holes, but she insisted on mending them instead. She now proudly wears them, and I proudly pretend I am Caroline Wilder, raising pioneer children. Next stop, making balloons out of pig-bladders to play with. Simple pleasures!

Also, Marley mended a gaping hole in one of her favorite blankets, then tore out the stitches, deciding she liked it much better with the hole.

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7U6A57577U6A5781While she sewed, I brushed and braided her hair, which is like fine spiders silk but as dense and pale as pound cake. In the back ground, an uninterested fairy with droopy wings pretended to be the princess of the puppies.7U6A5766

7U6A5777For fun, I wrapped Marley’s dutch braid into a bun and pinned it with my incredible long steel 2 prong pins that I am obsessed with. I get them from an online shop called Mennonite Maidens. You should seriously check these chicks out.

Do you have daughters or long haired sons? Tea and Braids is a lovely evening-time bonding tradition for children and their parents. My girls love having braids in their hair, and then mermaid-y waves for the days following.

xo, HTHG

Holley and Savina: Dip dye and sign language.

7U6A1018Holley is one of my closest friends. She is a magnetic and magical woman and I consider her a sister, a confidant, partner in crime, and a muse. She is the mother of 2 beautiful and captivating daughters Loretta and Savina, both with completely different special needs.

Holley stole my heart with her beautiful Roma eyes and her knee length black hair at first sight, and she has been a force in my life ever since. Please read this post about Holley, the Roma people and their hair.

7U6A1010 I am endlessly fascinated by Roma people, or “gypsies’ as they have been historically called.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Interesting fact here though……Calling a Roma person a gypsy is like any other derogatory racial slur. But in our culture, the word gypsy has taken on some kind of positive mystical archetype. The gypsy moniker has become so normalized that non-Roma women all over the place are calling themselves gypsies without realizing any cultural implications. The origin of the word has been buried in one of our worlds biggest cultural misunderstandings.

My Roma love story began for me when I was a 3 year old America born little girl living on a Fava bean farm in Portugal. I would sneak out of bed at night and watch the families in the Roma camp dancing to wonderful music late into the night out my little bedroom window, wishing I could be there and wondering why the Portuguese people around me seemed to dislike these amazing people so much. It was so hard to understand. It was my first little picture of massive cultural predjudice. Read about it, so that you understand.

7U6A0913Holley’s daughter Savina is almost 4 years old. She was born strong, bright, and completely deaf. As you can see, her lack of hearing does not in impair her ability to express herself! Ah the beauty of visual communication. Savina gets it.

I had the pleasure of coloring Savina’s hair for the first time last week. She wanted pink ends, so I used the last ounce of my Manic Panic Cleo Rose and did some easy pink dip-dye.

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I didn’t have to bleach her ends first because like most little kids, her ends were naturally lighter from being a kid in the Summer sun for the last 3 months. It worked perfectly.

IMG_1662I put her hair in a high ponytail, and then just worked through it applying the pink piece by piece in the ends and laying it on foil. Want to try this on yourself or your kid? It is stupidly easy to DIY, here is the tutorial:)

Savina was so proud sitting there in the chair, trying to contain her excitement. She checked her little self out from all angles in the mirror from all angles.

After we rinsed her color out and it was time to take some pictures, I saw this awesome side of Savina that I hadn’t yet witnessed. She came alive in front of a camera……A completely fierce and independent spirit. Just like her mama.

After that, the kids played together for a while in their own awesome way. My girls never play quietly under any circumstances, but with Savina I witnessed this lovely quiet play that shocked me. The three girls sat on the floor together building with blocks independantly but with collaboration and sharing. It was so peaceful and sweet. In the other room, Loretta laid contentedly for a while in a nest that the girls had made for her. Loretta is a wonderful story for a different day. I will try to get my hands in her hair soon so you all can meet her, too.

As a mother, watching my children adapt to play without a common language is really cool. They don’t skip a beat. Playing is universal. Children seem to understand each other in a certain way that transcends language or experience.

I am looking forward to learning more signs with my kids in the future.

Among many of the amazing things that Holley does in life, pioneering an effort to change deaf public school policy in our city which has notoriously neglected the rights of deaf children and families is just one of them. Want to donate to a great cause or get involved with deaf policy? Check this out.

xo, HTHG

Little girl curls

7U6A50647U6A5057I rag curled Marley’s hair the other day and it turned out so cute. It was such a silly poodle fro at first after we brushed it out, but it relaxed into a lovely little 1920’s bouncy curl wave by the end of the day. She loved it, as she always does when her hair is wild and big. 7U6A5114

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

She yawned big as I took her picture in the morning before she headed to Summer Camp. My kids went to camp this year….Drama camp for Mars, and bubble and balloon camp for Selah. Peace and quiet time for me, which was a huge relief.

We had a great Summer but I am glad to see the fall come. Glad the kids are back in school and we have some semblance of a routine again.

xoxo, HTHG

Cobra gets bangs. Becomes a lady.

7U6A2666  Cobra the snake. Aka, Simonne the baby. Shining almost 2 year old star, shredding the baby/toddler line and roping it like a rode warrior. Daughter of Bethefair mother Brette Howard. More than a friend to me, more like a sister.7U6A3515

Cobes got her first haircut. I had the honor. I gave her bangs, then a little up-do with a clip. She became a lady that day;)

Got a baby ready for their first haircut? Here is my DIY video for it. xo

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Kid’s first haircut. Starring Selah Sparrow

7U6A19467U6A19547U6A20037U6A19937U6A19817U6A2000There comes a time in toddler-hood when baby hair no longer works like it used to.  it is like a pair of pants that have stretched out beyond the point of return, and you keep trying to wear them anyway. Almost like trying to wear your pregnancy pants after you loose some baby weight. Just doesn’t fit.

A you can see, Selah recently reached that point with her adorably wild head of golden waves. Although we cherished her random tails that flopped around on the back of her head like the ears of an enthusiastic teenage golden retriever, the time had come for her first real hair cut. When I say real, I mean more than just “trimming her bangs.”

Despite her rambunctious personality, she loves  sitting still for a hair cut. She gets pretend cuts after real every haircut I do at home. she proudly climbs into my chair and sits still while everyone watches her get her “bangs trimmed” which really means I just make my shears do a snip snip sound across her forehead. Big kid stuff.

Anyhow, we decided to cut the back up into a stacked little bob with some layers to free up her curls. Basically, a she got a Shlob. Everyone knows that there is just nothing better than a little girl with a stacked bob.

Then I gave her asymmetrical choppy bangs which worked perfectly with her waves.

How, you may ask, do I get my children to cooperate for pictures? The answer is bribery. Because bribery is the only way to get children to cooperate for pictures.

Oh, and also I gave her a little fake camera to play with as I shot photos of her. I directed her with promises (which I kept:) of afternoon swimming. When I was satisfied with the photos I had, it was her turn.

She did my hair for me with a alligator clip, a plastic barrette, and semi-pig-tails. Then she told me to turn around, smile, turn the other way, slow down, honey! whoa! okay. Now another one from the front.

I have a DIY hair video called ‘Kids first hair trim which demonstrates this cute cut on wavy kid hair for any of you interested in giving your kid their first haircut. I also have a boy version which works wonders on boys or girls;)

xoxo, HTHG

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