A Conversation on Ancestral Haircare with Becca Piastrelli

Hello my dears.

Today, my heart is heavy because I am not on my way to the Spirit Weavers Gathering which takes place on it’s own beautiful homeland in Southern Oregon, where many of my dearest sisters are communing together and preparing and blessing the land for 600 women who will meet this weekend and next for a sharing of ancestral earth skills, sacred activism, healing, empowerment, adornment, and on and on and on.

I have been to this gathering the past 2 years, and it has filled an empty longing in my heart that I had carried with me my entire life. I didn’t know why exactly I wanted to go in the first place, I just felt drawn to it and now I know why……Because it has facilitated in me a necessary awakening that holds me to my path in a beautiful space with many other seeking souls.

I could really go on and on here but I don’t want to go too deep right now, I just have to get off my chest how sad I feel to miss it this year. No regrets on my choice not to go, I’m simply too pregnant. I’m just having spiritual FOMO and missing my sisters and the forest. Thanks for bearing with me.

Today, I want to take a minute to share with you a beautiful conversation that I had a few weeks back with Becca Piastrelli, Bay area writer and Blogger whom I met at last  year’s Spirit Weavers Gathering. 

She hosted me in her beautiful Mill Valley home for a Braid/ Haircare Workshop a few months back, and then got back in touch about doing an interview on the topic of Hair as Adornment, Self-care, Brushing Ritual, Braids and Ancestry. We dropped in together over video-chat and she asked me some great questions that I really enjoyed answering and am glad to share with you today.

Here is her beautiful intro for the blog post she put together with the video footage.

Words from Becca Piastrelli…..

As I journey deeper into the ancestral traditions of the women of my lineage, I feel all the more connected to my own body.

I often look at my hands with such awe and reverence for what they are capable of and how all the women that came before me are helping to guide them in my daily acts of making (from breakfast to writing emails to dip dyeing fiber in indigo).

Having grown up in this beauty-obsessed culture, feeling comparison with the hair (and bodies) of the women plastered on billboards and in the pages of magazines has come up for me often. There have been times where I’ve hated that I wasn’t blonde, didn’t have curly enough hair, didn’t have straight enough hair, or sucked at making it look good.

But a lot of that has shifted over the past year as I’ve begun a deeper exploration of my hair as an expression of who I am and my connection to the earth and the people who came before me.

Here is the post/ video Interview. Give it a look, and let us know your thoughts!

Also, follow Becca here on IG for more life musings for the creative heart.

 

Thank you for being here, lots of love.

RJH

Free Your Hair Horoscope: Pisces!

coverFriends old and new, thanks for visiting us today for the 3nd edition of the Free Your Hair HOROSCOPE honoring the Pisces.

I offer this series to all as an ever-changing and morphing guide for Hair-Centered Radical Self Care, Ritual and Beauty in honor and tribute to each sign as they enter into their place in the Sun Rotation.

With this Hairoscope, we hope to inspire each sign of the zodiac to take some extra time on their birthday month to really love on and care for themselves. Every month, we will pull a card to share from The Moon Deck to inspire your monthly self-care ritual. With the sage advice of The Moon Deck, we will adapt our monthly mantras to bless and honor our own hair. We invite you to share these monthly Hairoscopes with your friends who are of that month’s astrological sign and help them take some time for self love!


For this series, I worked with artist Madison McClain to create our women of the horoscope, and with intuitive writer and healer Aarona Ganesan, co-creator of The Moon Deck, which is the Tarot Deck I use daily to inspire my own personal self-care rituals.

This month, we honor the Pisces

Moon Deck Ritual:

(Words and Rituals adapted from the Moon Deck Guidebook, changed slightly to speak specifically to our hair.)

Hair Brush Mantra:

We are often more resourceful than we think with abundant support all around us. No matter how big or small, it is empowering to have a circle of like-minded people in our life who are supportive, loving, and active in the world.

Whether you have a strong community of you are craving community, this card has appeared to connect you to the power of your community and your ability to call it in.

‘My Community is supportive, loving, and active in the world ‘


Take 5 minutes today to brush this mantra into your hair, repeating it to yourself with every stroke. Be in a comfortable, calm place without distraction. Close your eyes and breath, centering your body as you brush. If you are not a regular hair brusher, here is why we think you should try it, and here is where to get yourself a beautiful hair brush to work into your hair care ritual. If you are more of the combing type, consider a wooden wide toothed comb or your own fingers for a relaxing scalp massage.

Braid Circle

This is a wonderful way to call your community together for an evening of self care and intention setting. It will bring you all closer and help everyone feel more supported in life.

 

-Invite several friends over for an evening of braiding and brushing each other’s hair. 

-Ask everyone to bring their favorite brush or comb, hair oils and essential oils. 

-Brew some tea or prepare drink fixings. Ask friends to bring snacks.

-Prepare a good playlist

-Spread a blanket out on the floor, and throw some pillows around for easy lounging. Light candles, and consider smudging the room with sage or incense to prepare a fresh space and banish any stagnant energy from the space.

-Once everyone is comfortably gathered on the floor with tea and snacks, take a quiet moment to ask everyone to set an intention for the evening. Folks can share if they want, or keep it to themselves.

-Spend several hours brushing, braiding and styling each other’s hair. See where the night takes you. Be open to conversations getting deeper as your build trust by the loving touch of your community on your crown. 

Optional:

*Use this opportunity to choose a few topics to discuss, and plan some ways to take action together to better your community.

* When you are all done brushing, gather all the fallen hair from each brush, roll them into a ball and take it outside. Take a candle flame to it. Reflect on what you are ready to let go of in life. These hairs can represent what you are collectively ready to leave behind. Watch it burn. Make it so.

 

Hair Advice:

Pisces, you certainly do know how to slip between worlds and access dimensions that many of us don’t even know exist. This is why other’s call you sensitive. I choose to reframe it as a vastly endless and beautiful palate of color that paints the world that you live in, when most of us are stuck in ROYGBIV life. You are receptive to everything. You let it all in, and my advice to you this month is to remember the importance of building your armor to protect yourself when you need to. There is so much happening in the world, and it is very important that you stay on your center point, so maintain strength and perspective. This month, braid your hair. Imagine that you are integrating your own strength with the protection of the universe and the armor of your community to hold you. You are safe, you are loved, you are strong.

Moon Phases in Pisces:

The New Moon and Full Moon are the most potent times for setting new intentions for healthy habits and relationships and creating rituals that are potent in their action. I highly recommend this months Braid Circle be done around both the 25-26th of February  to observe the New Moon, setting an intention of what you are ready to let go of in your life/in your hair/in your relationship to yourself in physical and spiritual form, and around March 12-13th to observe the Full Moon, setting intention for what you are ready to bring in to your life. What do you want to manifest? Now is the time.

And how do you set an intention? for those who haven’t practiced it……Speak a little prayer to yourself. Honor it with the ritual of calling your community together for an evening. Hold the prayer in your heart as you practice self love. Make it so!

Please check out The Moon Deck for more musings. Pisces babes, may we suggest you get your own deck as a birthday gift to yourself and make a vow to love yourself and your hair more in this coming year.

What would you like to see woven into our monthly Hairoscope? I would love to hear your feedback! We are excited to watch this series grow and change with your input.

xo, HTHG and The Moon Deck

 

 

Free Your Hairoscope: Capricorn

coverFriends old and new, after years of thinking, planning and dreaming on a Hair Horoscope, I am finally launching our monthly Free Your Hair HAIROSCOPE.

I never did land on a very fixed vision of what this Hairoscope would look like……And so I decided to just go for it, write from what I know and love, collaborate with artists and healers that I love, and offer this series as an ever-changing and morphing guide for Hair-Centered Radical Self Care, Ritual and Beauty in honor and tribute to each sign as they enter into their place in the Sun Rotation.

With this Hairoscope, we hope to inspire each sign of the zodiac to take some extra time on their birthday month to really love on and care for themselves. Every month, we will pull a card to share from The Moon Deck to inspire your monthly self-care ritual. With the sage advice of The Moon Deck, we will adapt our monthly mantras to bless and honor our own hair. We invite you to share these monthly Hairoscopes with your friends who are of that month’s astrological sign and help them take some time for self love!


img_6721-1For this series, I worked with artist Madison McClain to create our women of the horoscope, and with intuitive writer and healer Aarona Ganesan, co-creator of The Moon Deck, which is the Tarot Deck I use daily to inspire my own personal self-care rituals.

This month, we honor the Capricorn.

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Moon Deck Ritual:

(Words and Rituals adapted from the Moon Deck Guidebook, changed slightly to speak specifically to our hair.)

 

Hair Brush Mantra:

Every relationship is a lesson in love, challenging us to go deeper into the infinite realm of intimacy. Connection is in our nature and vital to our health. Above any outside relationship, however, when we drop into a loving romance with ourselves we heal the blocks to true intimacy and can share more deeply with one another. 

Every woman has gone through something that has changed her in some way. Barriers to intimacy may be rooted to distant or recent experiences. Wherever you are on this path, this card asks you to remain open. Trust that you can forge rich loving connections with others, intimacy comes in many forms. Adjust your perspective. Walk as a loved woman. Embrace your most intimate romance-the one you have with yourself. Lean into your own heart and feel the warm embers of your love. 

Here is Your Hair Mantra for this month.

Love and Intimacy flow into my life (and hair! ) effortlessly.

Take 5 minutes today to brush this mantra into your hair, repeating it to yourself with every stroke. Be in a comfortable, calm place without distraction. Close your eyes and breath, centering your body as you brush. If you are not a regular hair brusher, here is why we think you should try it, and here is where to get yourself a beautiful hair brush to work into your hair care ritual. 7u6a0145

Rose Blessing:

Roses have been cherished for centuries for their sensual nature. They evoke the spirit of love and uplift the mood. Find fresh or dried roses that have no toxic sprays of chemical pesticides for this ritual. Fill them with prayers of love.

-Infuse rose petals in hot distilled water (approx. 1 part petals to 2 parts water.) Steep several hours or overnight for more fragrant potency.

-Rose Bath: Add both steeped roses and rose water to a hot bath or a beautiful basin. Soak and scrub your face/body/hands/feet/scalp and hair to nourish your skin and spirit. Welcome love and intimacy as you visualize flowers blossoming in your heart center and petals surrounding your crown.

Hair Advice:

Take stock of the times that you have been made to feel less than great about your hair. Which of these stories have become the stories that you tell yourself to be true?

A hairdresser once told me that my hair was really thin. It became my belief that I had thin hair, and that it was a bad thing. A boy in middle school said my hair made me look like a man. I have spent most of my life convinced that my hair is mannish and it has made it hard for me to understand and embrace my own feminine side, let alone my own masculine side. My kids say I have clown hair. I am embracing my inner clown:)

A great first step to building love and intimacy with our own hair and our own selves is remembering these stories and then letting them go, or reframing them into positivity.

Capricorn, retell these stories and rewrite your own truths about your hair. Write a love letter to your hair and all of it’s quirks, remembering that no two heads of hair in this entire world are exactly the same. If you are stuck in a hair rut ( hand eternally raised. ) Vow to try something different in this new year.

Cap Challenge: Dear Caps, we honor your need for simplicity and streamlined organization…..We understand that lightening your load of clutter is necessary for that radical forward thinking which keeps you ignited. This month, we challenge you to take some time to go through your bathroom shelves and cabinets and take a good look at your product and self-care tool load. Check expiration dates, ingredient lists, and shake down whether each bottle and brush and tool feels worthy of living on your alter of self care.

As we grow and change, often we outgrow existing routines….We learn to be more choosy and intentional with our belongings, with things we allow into our lives. Keep only what serves you in health and love. Keep only what allows you to honor yourself as you are today…..Get rid of all that suggests that you need to strive to be someone or something different. Begin to build that Self Care Alter with conscious, loving care. img_6711

Thanks for being with us today!

Please check out The Moon Deck for more musings. Capricorns, may we suggest you get your own deck as a birthday gift to yourself and make a vow to love yourself and your hair more in this coming year.

What would you like to see woven into our monthly Hairoscope? I would love to hear your feedback! We are excited to watch this series grow and change with your input.

xo, HTHG and The Moon Deck

 

 

Free Your Hair for Standing Rock

Hey babes. Just want to share that starting next week, I will be selling really beautiful handmade Hair Adornment and Tools, just in time for shopping small and conscious during the season of giving with 25% of all profit going to Standing Rock to help support Peace Warriors and Warrioresses on the front lines.

Here is a sneak peek of what will be available……7u6a9389 7u6a9341 7u6a9401 7u6a9367 7u6a9351 7u6a9391

All listings and sales will be through my Instagram, so please follow me and DM with your name and shipping address and the listed Item you want, sending payment to howtohairgirl@gmail via Paypal.

xo, HTHG

Curl Wisdom and Embracing the Hairbrush with Josie of Curandera Remedies

I met Josie at this year’s Spirit Weavers Gathering, where we bonded over her gorgeous curls and her love of brushing them. As you all know, I really love to meet a woman who fully embraces her curly hair, and her silver sparkles. To me, embracing the hair is just a small part of a bigger shift in consciousness that leads to healing and change on a much larger level.

I’m always curious about what has led a woman to love her own hair, especially in our culture that traditionally encourages all women to try to make their hair look like Pantene Hair. I also love to see a curly woman who is not afraid of a hairbrush. ( If you are curly or kinky textured you know what I am saying.)

Josie was born into a family rooted in the healing arts of curan-dería, shape shifting and clairvoyance. She is a healer and a maker of remedies which I highly suggest checking out. With her beautiful dark ringlets laced with sparkling silver that blings in the sun, she was kind enough to offer us some insight into her own hair journey, including her brushing routine and some wisdom from her Mexican-Cuban roots.


HTHG JC5What is your full name and where are you from?

My full name is Iosellev Castaneda and I was born in Mexico City, MX

Tell me a bit about what you are up to these days, where you live,
Curandera Remedies and how you got into it.

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I live in Miami, Florida. I relocated about 16 months ago from NYC where I lived for 19+ years. While living & working in NYC, as a Fashion Designer, I found my path as a healer. The hustle and bustle of the Fashion industry burned me out. It was then I began to seek a healthier, more conscious lifestyle. Through Meditatoin, Yoga, and herbalism I found a new way of seeing the world. It is what inspired me want to share these teachings with Curandera Remedies.

Curandera Remedies began as a way to share the many tools I learned for a conscious, happy lifestyle. It blossomed along with my students and clients when I began to make personalized apothecary products. Today the mission is to promote alternative healing and raise conscious harmony in everyone. The brand is inspired by folk medicine, homesteading, and global connection.

What is your heritage on both sides? Where do you think you got that
beautiful hair from?

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I am a Mexican-Cuban by heritage. My mom has Toltec Indian ‘cabello quebrado’ aka wavy hair and my dad has afro-textured hair. My hair definitely a mix of both, it is super limp and loose when wet but it dries in curls and depending on the weather it is either loose curls or tight curls.

What were you raised with as far as haircare/ hair beliefs/ Hair remedies/
Hair styling

My dad has been an advocate for my curly hair, as photos prove with the afro. But my mom was the one who ultimately took care of it. Because she had no idea how to care for it, and none did either, most of my childhood I had short hair. As I grew up and was introduced to more mixed raced friends in the US, I learned various ways to style my hair.

Did you have anyone in your life that did your hair for you as a kid?

Yes, my dad. He knew how to style and comb out my hair when it was dry.

Any hair wisdom from the cultures you were raised in?

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Well my maternal grandmother kept her hair jet black with an ash mask made of Mamey pit. I’ve yet to try this, specially with my premature graying hair, lol!! But it’s on my list.

What is your hair routine / MO these days?

Wash and moisturize with alcohol free shampoo & conditiner. Natural hair mask atleast once a week, sometimes it’s a mix of hot oils other times natural avocado, mayo, or egg. Very few times I’ve use a store bought hair mask. I style it with alcohol free mousse or hair pomade. If i really want a sure hold I’ll dab some gel.

As a curly haired woman, what inspired you to start brushing your hair?

A few times in my life I’ve had my hair chemically altered, and these times i always love brushing my hair!! It made my hair very shiny. Today I brush my hair after washing it, to style it. And depending on the day and how I’m feeling, I also brush it before bed.

What do you like about brushing your hair?
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Brushing my hair wet to style makes the curls pop and I love that!! When dry, it feels delicious on my scalp though the combed out hair isn’t something I’ve yet fallen in love with.

Have you always loved and embraced your curls, or did you have a hair
rebellion at any point?

I didn’t really love my hair until I moved to NYC. It was then I discovered, at age 17, how fall and winter weather affected my hair. I also learned then the use of alcohol free products. A few times I did relax my hair, mostly because I wanted to experience something different. But the more I did the more I loved my natural hair when I decided to ‘go back’.

Do you have a hair mantra?

No but I friend once told me ‘when a gal embraces her curls, she has fully embraced herself’, lovely isn’t it.

Any hair stories from your youth that stick out?HTHG JC1

When I was 15, I had my hair set in rollers and blown out for the first time. It was also the first time someone gave me a hair compliment. Isn’t that wacky? It’s no wonder curly hair gals opt for chemical changes instead of embracing their gorgeous curls!!!

Thanks Josie for sharing your words and wisdom! Please take some time to check out Josie’s offerings here, and follow her on Instagram.

Thanks for reading!
xo, HTHG

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