A Conversation on Ancestral Haircare with Becca Piastrelli

Hello my dears.

Today, my heart is heavy because I am not on my way to the Spirit Weavers Gathering which takes place on it’s own beautiful homeland in Southern Oregon, where many of my dearest sisters are communing together and preparing and blessing the land for 600 women who will meet this weekend and next for a sharing of ancestral earth skills, sacred activism, healing, empowerment, adornment, and on and on and on.

I have been to this gathering the past 2 years, and it has filled an empty longing in my heart that I had carried with me my entire life. I didn’t know why exactly I wanted to go in the first place, I just felt drawn to it and now I know why……Because it has facilitated in me a necessary awakening that holds me to my path in a beautiful space with many other seeking souls.

I could really go on and on here but I don’t want to go too deep right now, I just have to get off my chest how sad I feel to miss it this year. No regrets on my choice not to go, I’m simply too pregnant. I’m just having spiritual FOMO and missing my sisters and the forest. Thanks for bearing with me.

Today, I want to take a minute to share with you a beautiful conversation that I had a few weeks back with Becca Piastrelli, Bay area writer and Blogger whom I met at last  year’s Spirit Weavers Gathering. 

She hosted me in her beautiful Mill Valley home for a Braid/ Haircare Workshop a few months back, and then got back in touch about doing an interview on the topic of Hair as Adornment, Self-care, Brushing Ritual, Braids and Ancestry. We dropped in together over video-chat and she asked me some great questions that I really enjoyed answering and am glad to share with you today.

Here is her beautiful intro for the blog post she put together with the video footage.

Words from Becca Piastrelli…..

As I journey deeper into the ancestral traditions of the women of my lineage, I feel all the more connected to my own body.

I often look at my hands with such awe and reverence for what they are capable of and how all the women that came before me are helping to guide them in my daily acts of making (from breakfast to writing emails to dip dyeing fiber in indigo).

Having grown up in this beauty-obsessed culture, feeling comparison with the hair (and bodies) of the women plastered on billboards and in the pages of magazines has come up for me often. There have been times where I’ve hated that I wasn’t blonde, didn’t have curly enough hair, didn’t have straight enough hair, or sucked at making it look good.

But a lot of that has shifted over the past year as I’ve begun a deeper exploration of my hair as an expression of who I am and my connection to the earth and the people who came before me.

Here is the post/ video Interview. Give it a look, and let us know your thoughts!

Also, follow Becca here on IG for more life musings for the creative heart.

 

Thank you for being here, lots of love.

RJH

Peace Braid

Good morning my dears.

It has been a while since I have spoken from the heart here and I want to take a minute today to drop in.

I have been thinking a lot about what is working in the world around us, today. What are the things that we live for, the things that keep us connected and hopeful. Where are the places that don’t require resistance to make great change, and in fact maybe require us to do the opposite of resist: Lean in, move toward, flow.

Finding moments of peace, appreciating the beauty around us in the small things and cultivating the feelings of standing for, and living for something instead of in opposition. There is something very powerful there.

Here is what I have been up to: Preparing food and eating. Growing a baby. Braiding hair. Growing a baby. Traveling and sharing hair wisdom. Growing a baby. Connecting with communities. Growing a baby. Crying and laughing. Taking walks, loving flowers, bringing in the Spring. Loving my family and being driven mad by them, reading. Growing a baby.

The activism of Fall and Winter has softened into a deep search for the answers to “where is my energy best spent for the common good, and for the good of this small microcosm which is my body, myself, my family, my immediate community, etc.

Reading has felt revolutionary. The People’s History is almost finished, I’m just working my way slowly through the Reagan years. The teachings of Malcom X is really shifting some things for me, having been raised on the peaceful/ non-violent teachings of Dr. MLK. Braiding Sweetgrass blew my heart open. The Power of Habit empowered me with new insight into behavior. Walking the Medicine Wheel really made me think about healing in a different way. There are more: But let’s start with these.

I had the pleasure of spending some time in Portland last weekend, with my dear friend and fellow hair healer Stefani Padilla of La Tierra Sagrada Hair.

We taught a workshop together on Hair Ritual, and we facilitated a Peace Braid Meditation with a circle of women and men, joined in a continuous braid, while invoking and sharing visions of peace and what that means to each of them.

The circle was hosted by Alea Joy of Solabee Flowers, a beautiful bloom shop in PDX. She helped us adorn the Peace Braid with cherry blossoms, roses, cymbidium orchids, daffodils and beautiful botanical greenery. 

The next day, we celebrated the 1 year anniversary party of Solabee in their current location in NE Portland. I braided flowers into people’s hair, and Stef did trims and shared her Hair Medicine while party-goers gazed at beautiful blooms and drank violet champagne cocktails. 

Was just lovely, and so nice to spend some time with a new community. Thanks PDX, for taking good care of me.

I am sending love and peace to all of you who are reading this, and I’m curious: What brings you the most peace right now?

 

xo, HTHG

Free Your Hairoscope: Aquarius!

coverFriends old and new, thanks for visiting us today for the 2nd edition of the Free Your Hair HAIROSCOPE.

I offer this series to all as an ever-changing and morphing guide for Hair-Centered Radical Self Care, Ritual and Beauty in honor and tribute to each sign as they enter into their place in the Sun Rotation.

With this Hairoscope, we hope to inspire each sign of the zodiac to take some extra time on their birthday month to really love on and care for themselves. Every month, we will pull a card to share from The Moon Deck to inspire your monthly self-care ritual. With the sage advice of The Moon Deck, we will adapt our monthly mantras to bless and honor our own hair. We invite you to share these monthly Hairoscopes with your friends who are of that month’s astrological sign and help them take some time for self love!


img_6721-1For this series, I worked with artist Madison McClain to create our women of the horoscope, and with intuitive writer and healer Aarona Ganesan, co-creator of The Moon Deck, which is the Tarot Deck I use daily to inspire my own personal self-care rituals.

This month, we honor the Aquarians 

Moon Deck Ritual:

(Words and Rituals adapted from the Moon Deck Guidebook, changed slightly to speak specifically to our hair.)

Hair Brush Mantra:

Forgiveness is potent medicine and one of our most important spiritual practices we can cultivate. When we forgive, we allow our lives to move forwards with more ease. 

Deep challenges and past hurts may hold your greatest gifts and be the doorways to incredible insight, growth, and compassion. When you forgive yourself or others, you say YES to life and open up to something more aligned.

Although we may want the other to apologize first, we can’t control  one another. By saying ‘no’ to the harboring of negativity and suffering, we take full responsibility for how we feel, clean up disharmony within ourselves, and allow love and acceptance to prevail.

Surrender control, let go of blame, and receive the underlying teaching. You are ready to take the first step. Bring love into your own being this very moment.

Here is Your Hair Mantra for this month….

‘I Forgive and Let Go with Loving Ease ‘


Take 5 minutes today to brush this mantra into your hair, repeating it to yourself with every stroke. Be in a comfortable, calm place without distraction. Close your eyes and breath, centering your body as you brush. If you are not a regular hair brusher, here is why we think you should try it, and here is where to get yourself a beautiful hair brush to work into your hair care ritual. If you are more of the combing type, consider a wooden wide toothed comb or your own fingers for a relaxing scalp massage.

Lavender/Amethyst Bath:

Amethyst is a crystal which is associated with inner peace and healing grief, while tiny delicate Lavender flowers are used to bring calmness and comfort to the body and soul. This month, to aid in our time of bringing the intention of Forgiveness, prepare a bath to soak your hair and body steeped in the subtle magic of your purple allies. 

The effect of your healing bath will be both subtly powerful, especially following up a hair brush session, complete with this month’s mantra. 

-Sprinkle 3 tablespoons of fresh or dried lavender flowers into a hot bath. I recommend the flowers over essential oil because they are the true and unadulterated expression of the plant and more suitable to provide their healing abilities to our true and unadulterated selves. 

-Light a few candles and turn the lights down in the bathroom.

-Hold a small amethyst in each hand as you soak, submerging yourself as much as you feel comfortable. Recite your mantra a few more times, feeling the weight of the stones in each hand, and inhaling the intoxicating scent of lavender. Feel the grief of years of holding grudges against ourselves and humanity soften and slough away. 

-Close your eyes and imagine the color purple. Soft, balanced, and deep, free. 

My Dream Hair, FYI.

 

Hair Advice:

It is all too easy to compare our hair to other people’s hair, and wish we had something different than what we were born with. Many of us have spent plenty of time and energy trying to beat our own hair into submission, frustrated by our flaws held against a standard of ‘beauty.’

Many of us have hair FOMO, which is the Fear Of Missing Out of the experience of having thick hair when our hair is naturally thin. And this can cause us to get stuck in wishing we had something we don’t have, and miss out on an opportunity to really take advantage of what we DO have and make it work for us.

This month, my advice to you Water Bearers is to forgive yourself for all the times that you took your own unique hair for granted, and stop holding yourself back from doing something totally new and unique with your ‘do.

Aquarius Challenge:

This new year is the perfect time to do something you have always wanted to do with your hair, having freed yourself of hair guilt and forgiven yourself of hair hang ups.

Go ahead. Get that bob. Cut some curly bangs. Shit, shave your head.Try a new color or wear your hair totally natural to work one day. Rock it proudly, and move into your next year with your hair held high, having shed the heavy energetic burden of hair FOMO. Love what you’ve got.

Moon Phases in Aquarius:

The New Moon and Full Moon are the most potent times for setting new intentions for healthy habits and relationships and creating rituals that are potent in their action. I highly recommend this months ritual bath be done around both the 27th of January to observe the New Moon, setting an intention of what you are ready to let go of in your life/in your hair/in your relationship to yourself in physical and spiritual form, and around February 10th to observe the Full Moon, setting intention for what you are ready to bring in to your life. What do you want to manifest? Now is the time.

And how do you set an intention? for those who haven’t practiced it……Speak a little prayer to yourself. Honor it with the ritual of preparing a bath steeped in herbs and infused with the magic of yourself and body. Hold the prayer in your heart as you practice self love. Make it so!

Please check out The Moon Deck for more musings. Aquarius babes, may we suggest you get your own deck as a birthday gift to yourself and make a vow to love yourself and your hair more in this coming year.

What would you like to see woven into our monthly Hairoscope? I would love to hear your feedback! We are excited to watch this series grow and change with your input.

xo, HTHG and The Moon Deck

 

 

Free Your Hairoscope: Capricorn

coverFriends old and new, after years of thinking, planning and dreaming on a Hair Horoscope, I am finally launching our monthly Free Your Hair HAIROSCOPE.

I never did land on a very fixed vision of what this Hairoscope would look like……And so I decided to just go for it, write from what I know and love, collaborate with artists and healers that I love, and offer this series as an ever-changing and morphing guide for Hair-Centered Radical Self Care, Ritual and Beauty in honor and tribute to each sign as they enter into their place in the Sun Rotation.

With this Hairoscope, we hope to inspire each sign of the zodiac to take some extra time on their birthday month to really love on and care for themselves. Every month, we will pull a card to share from The Moon Deck to inspire your monthly self-care ritual. With the sage advice of The Moon Deck, we will adapt our monthly mantras to bless and honor our own hair. We invite you to share these monthly Hairoscopes with your friends who are of that month’s astrological sign and help them take some time for self love!


img_6721-1For this series, I worked with artist Madison McClain to create our women of the horoscope, and with intuitive writer and healer Aarona Ganesan, co-creator of The Moon Deck, which is the Tarot Deck I use daily to inspire my own personal self-care rituals.

This month, we honor the Capricorn.

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Moon Deck Ritual:

(Words and Rituals adapted from the Moon Deck Guidebook, changed slightly to speak specifically to our hair.)

 

Hair Brush Mantra:

Every relationship is a lesson in love, challenging us to go deeper into the infinite realm of intimacy. Connection is in our nature and vital to our health. Above any outside relationship, however, when we drop into a loving romance with ourselves we heal the blocks to true intimacy and can share more deeply with one another. 

Every woman has gone through something that has changed her in some way. Barriers to intimacy may be rooted to distant or recent experiences. Wherever you are on this path, this card asks you to remain open. Trust that you can forge rich loving connections with others, intimacy comes in many forms. Adjust your perspective. Walk as a loved woman. Embrace your most intimate romance-the one you have with yourself. Lean into your own heart and feel the warm embers of your love. 

Here is Your Hair Mantra for this month.

Love and Intimacy flow into my life (and hair! ) effortlessly.

Take 5 minutes today to brush this mantra into your hair, repeating it to yourself with every stroke. Be in a comfortable, calm place without distraction. Close your eyes and breath, centering your body as you brush. If you are not a regular hair brusher, here is why we think you should try it, and here is where to get yourself a beautiful hair brush to work into your hair care ritual. 7u6a0145

Rose Blessing:

Roses have been cherished for centuries for their sensual nature. They evoke the spirit of love and uplift the mood. Find fresh or dried roses that have no toxic sprays of chemical pesticides for this ritual. Fill them with prayers of love.

-Infuse rose petals in hot distilled water (approx. 1 part petals to 2 parts water.) Steep several hours or overnight for more fragrant potency.

-Rose Bath: Add both steeped roses and rose water to a hot bath or a beautiful basin. Soak and scrub your face/body/hands/feet/scalp and hair to nourish your skin and spirit. Welcome love and intimacy as you visualize flowers blossoming in your heart center and petals surrounding your crown.

Hair Advice:

Take stock of the times that you have been made to feel less than great about your hair. Which of these stories have become the stories that you tell yourself to be true?

A hairdresser once told me that my hair was really thin. It became my belief that I had thin hair, and that it was a bad thing. A boy in middle school said my hair made me look like a man. I have spent most of my life convinced that my hair is mannish and it has made it hard for me to understand and embrace my own feminine side, let alone my own masculine side. My kids say I have clown hair. I am embracing my inner clown:)

A great first step to building love and intimacy with our own hair and our own selves is remembering these stories and then letting them go, or reframing them into positivity.

Capricorn, retell these stories and rewrite your own truths about your hair. Write a love letter to your hair and all of it’s quirks, remembering that no two heads of hair in this entire world are exactly the same. If you are stuck in a hair rut ( hand eternally raised. ) Vow to try something different in this new year.

Cap Challenge: Dear Caps, we honor your need for simplicity and streamlined organization…..We understand that lightening your load of clutter is necessary for that radical forward thinking which keeps you ignited. This month, we challenge you to take some time to go through your bathroom shelves and cabinets and take a good look at your product and self-care tool load. Check expiration dates, ingredient lists, and shake down whether each bottle and brush and tool feels worthy of living on your alter of self care.

As we grow and change, often we outgrow existing routines….We learn to be more choosy and intentional with our belongings, with things we allow into our lives. Keep only what serves you in health and love. Keep only what allows you to honor yourself as you are today…..Get rid of all that suggests that you need to strive to be someone or something different. Begin to build that Self Care Alter with conscious, loving care. img_6711

Thanks for being with us today!

Please check out The Moon Deck for more musings. Capricorns, may we suggest you get your own deck as a birthday gift to yourself and make a vow to love yourself and your hair more in this coming year.

What would you like to see woven into our monthly Hairoscope? I would love to hear your feedback! We are excited to watch this series grow and change with your input.

xo, HTHG and The Moon Deck

 

 

Hair and the Moon, Portland

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Dear Ones,

 

Now is the time we gather together under the Light of the Full Moon to celebrate the feminine and our powerful manes!

Join Roxie Jane Hunt of How To Hair Girl and Stefani Padilla of La Tierra Sagrada Hair 

in this heart-centered experience! 

Please bring your intentions for the Full Moon, as we will be diving deep into the journey of ritual. 

We invite you to celebrate with us on:

SUNDAY, OCTOBER 16th

4 to 6pm 

Location:

3587 NE PRESCOTT STREET

PORTLAND, OR 97211

Suggested Donation: $44 

*Please bring offer in cash day of, or send through Paypal before the gathering at stefani.padilla@gmail.com (please use friend/family option so we both avoid the fee)

**Please bring a vessel for tea and something cozy for you to sit on while in circle.

And please bring a BRUSH! ( Don’t worry if you do not have one, Roxie will have her custom brushes available for purchase).

Please feel free to share this with anyone else you feel might be open to joining us!

We look forward to sharing a magical evening together!

 

With love and excitement,

Stefani & Roxie

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